No couple aspires to divorce after marriage. Almost all of them want to have a lasting relationship with their partner. Starting a romantic relationship with your partner is easy, but keeping it last is challenging work. So not infrequently, many couples choose to end their relationship because they cannot go through a marriage relationship’s ups and downs.
There are several questions you can ask yourself to regrow love in your partner. Prepare a drink, sit back, and invite the pair to sit together to answer the following questions.
1. In what period in life-history would you like to live and why?
This question raises your interests and dreams. This can also see if your choice or answer is indirectly related to your partner.
2. What makes your day perfect, from getting up in the morning to sleep at night?
Why is this question important? You think maybe you know what your partner likes, but is that so? Try to think and realize again whether everything is about the actions of him or everything is just a matter of you and other friends.
3. What are the most grateful things in life besides marriage and children?
Couples rarely stop for a moment and count the gifts they get. This can be an excellent opportunity to reflect on the blessings you have.
On closer inspection, most people focus on what they don’t have rather than what is. Don’t get caught up, and if it does, pay attention to its effect on you and your partner.
4. Tell your experience from childhood to today for about five minutes.
This five-minute story will outline our choices and reactions when we encounter difficulties. This is an excellent opportunity to say anything openly, and it may be the first time you admit it to your partner.
5. What gives you meaning in life?
Everyone should ask themselves (especially middle-aged couples) what was done yesterday in half of life and the other half. This will help you get back ‘on the right path.’ The reason is, you often unconsciously do things that make us “drained” rather than “feed.”
This question is also to find out what drives your partner, allows you to distinguish between simple wants and basic needs, and becomes a united team to help each other.
6. What qualities do you have that make your partner think you are special?
It is worth seeing again how you feel about the quality of your current partner. What made you attractive at the start of the meeting now matters? For example, do you like a friendly and easy partner to get along with, but now you feel like he is not focused on home and family?
7. What do you and your partner have in common?
A question to warm up before starting to discuss your relationship with your current partner. Looking further, how have things shared change over time? Is change good or bad?
8. When did you make your partner feel small and embarrassed?
Give an example of a time when you didn’t embarrass him and when you embarrassed him.
Shame is the most challenging form of emotion to deal with. Appreciate your partner’s honesty. Sympathize with your partner’s hurt even though you are not the cause, and apologize for the pain you’ve ever caused. Look him in the eye and hold his hand to calm and reduce pain.
9.complete this sentence: I wish I had someone to share with …
This session is to see how you and your partner will look forward. Also, discuss how you would feel if your partner had close friends and if you thought alienated between them. What new activities might you do together?
10. What behavior do you want your partner to change?
This one question will bring up a chat between you and your partner. Make it like a complaint, so it feels like a fair trade-off.